Sunday 23 February 2014

Neknomiate- The Gift That Keeps On Vomming.


I have just watched a woman stand in a supermarket, wearing nothing but her underwear and a zany hat. No, I'm not watching every episode of Miranda ever made, but in an effort to do a little research for what I am about to write I decided to watch a few Neknominate videos. I've avoided the chicken heads and raw rabbit liver in favour of more reserved challenges; your raw eggs, your giggling timidly sipping a can of Strongbow whilst modelling La Senza's finest next to the discounted asparagus, etc.

I probably don't have to explain the concept of Neknominate, but just in case you've been hooked into a Netflix series for the last fortnight and have consequently sacrificed hygiene, personal relationships and current affairs, then Neknominate is essentially a drunk game of Chinese Whispers, with the whispers being those hot, wet, breathy whispers that only drunk people can produce. As is always the case with Chinese Whispers, the end result is very much far removed from the original message; what started as simply downing a pint of beer or seeing off a couple of shots has evolved into teenagers drinking tumblers of fluorescent car cleaner.

The reason that I don't need to properly explain Neknominate is because the media have already done it for me. A lot. I'm not saying that the press should have headed to The Winchester and waited for all of this to blow over, but why the mindless hysteria?
Tragically, five young British men have died since Neknominate hit our Newsfeeds and of course this should be reported on and offered as a sobering reminder of the dangers of excessive alcohol consumption, however I can't help but think that Neknominate has certain sections of the media rubbing its hands together with glee.

For a start, social media stories are cheap and easy. There's a reason that social media stories never really leave the pages of our paper, or are constantly wheeled out by topical 'magazine' shows whenever there's a slow news day; it's because they're quick to knock up. They very rarely require an expert's opinion, and even if they do they're denied one. No one has to be flown out to a strip of desert that was once a town, risking their life to produce a glitchy, out-of-sync news report . Journalists can sit quite comfortably, wedged onto their sofa whilst scrolling through months and months worth of tweets in order to find out everything that they need to know to write a sensationalist, misinformed social media piece.
A social media story is a quick tick on the whiteboard; “Right, that's some news done. Is it still raining? Great! More news!

However, as much as a social media story is an easy lay for the media, there are other motivations behind the excessive, doppleganger-y reporting of Neknominate. You see, I think that the media kind of hate social networking sites. They're in constant competition for our attention, and more often than not it's social media that comes out on top. If a news story breaks, it'll often break on Twitter before newsrooms pick it up. During the 2011 London Riots it was Twitter that people turned to for information, with newspapers and news bulletins breathlessly playing catch up. Newspapers and broadcasters are aware of this; they're sitting in the corner, jealously eyeing their younger sibling as it performs for an engrossed audience.
So, naturally, the media will slag off social media at any chance it gets; it's kind of like the ex-girlfriend talking about the new girlfriend to her friends. Sometimes social media is a lawless state in which anyone can say anything to anyone, always with dire consequences, and at other times it's single-handedly turning Britain's teenagers into mute, illiterate, claw-handed “twits” (New Drinking Game: take a shot every time you read an article which smugly refers to people who tweet as twits). Social media is constantly portrayed as The Baddy, with the ever-noble, never knowingly underhand British press casting themselves as The Goodies.

I also feel like the media's decision to devote a, in my opinion, disproportionate amount of time to the reporting of Neknominate related stories is a preemptive reaction to the disapproving eyes of other European countries.
You know when you do something really embarrassing and for months afterwards, whenever The Incident comes up into conversation, you have to jump in and tell the story yourself so that it's told the way that you want it to be? I think that the press is doing exactly that; it's essentially standing up and shouting “Yes, Europe, we know that this is stupid. Look how stupid these young people are! And these! Of course, WE don't approve of this, look how much we don't approve of this!” whilst holding up pages and pages of articles.


The thing is, Neknomations have sort of stopped now, haven't they? I can't remember the last time that I ignored one on my Newsfeed. Yes, the original videos went viral, as did the more extreme challenges, but for the last week it's really been the media that has thrust a challenge into the faces, and glasses, of bored teenagers. Whether it's the tragic deaths that have been linked to the drinking game, the simple passage of time, or both, it seems that Neknominate is starting to burn itself out.
The media have already done the job that they've been lobbying social media big-wigs to do; once a 'youth craze' has featured as a discussion topic on the daily First Wives Club that is Loose Women, you know that it's dead in the murky drown, raw egg, Tabasco sauce infused water.

Tuesday 11 February 2014

Reasons Why I'm A Slag...


On Monday 10th February, I was called a slag.
It certainly wasn't the first time I've been called a slag, and it certainly won't be the last. It was pretty much a non-event; I crossed the road at a zebra crossing, assuming that the driver of an oncoming car would stop. He obviously wasn't really into the whole 'rules' thing, and ended up having to heavily apply the brakes. As I did a little half-jog half-walk to get to the pavement, he shouted “Stupid slag” from his window and drove off.
Although on the outside my expression appeared blank, on the inside I was enraged; so enraged that I had to take off my scarf and unbutton my coat as I stomped through Wordsley, before I angrily sweated myself into a dehydrated stupor.
Between fantasising about running after the car, catching up with him and 1)delivering a short but powerful speech on how damaging the term slag is to women and converting him into a FeMANist and 2)beating him to death with my purse (anyone else's purse get really heavy? Like, REALLY heavy?), I started giving some thought as to why I find the word slag so hideous.

Since November 2013 I've kept a note on my phone, recording all the times that I've been called a slag; I've been planning a post like this for quite a while. Let's take a little trip down memory lane, shall we?
- I bumped into a man.
- I didn't get onto an escalator quickly enough.
- I walked past a builder at Aston University.
- I told a guy to “Piss off” when he called me a “sexy bitch”.
- I gave a guy a dirty look when he shouted “FIT” into my face.
- A man bumped into me.
- I walked past a man at Birmingham New Street Station.
- I said “Fuck you” to a man who, whilst enjoying an e-cigarette outside of a bar, told me that he'd love to fuck me in the arse. I realise that my response was probably not the best, considering.
- I moved to a different train carriage after a group of men old enough to be my father surrounded me and tried to put their arms around me.
- I walked past a man in the street.
- I hit a man on the arm with my handbag when getting off a bus.
- I told a guy to “Piss off” when he leaned into me and made a weird humming noise.


Before I continue, I'm going to say something that shouldn't need saying, but I know that at least one person will think it; this isn't a humble brag. When men say things like this to me, I don't think it means that I'm attractive and I don't find it complimentary. All girls know the difference between the feeling that you get when you've caught someone checking you out, and the stomach-churning, skin-crawling, lump-in-throat-inducing feeling that you get when a stranger leans into you when you walk past them, or a group of men leer at you and begin to follow you.

We all know where the term 'slag' comes from. Didn't we all watch that mind numbing video about iron ore smelting in Year 9 science class, whilst stifling giggles every time the narrator said 'slag'? We were all giggling because we knew the real meaning of the word slag; at that age it was any girl that had let some inexperienced, ink-stained hands get beneath her bra, but you get the picture.

I don't want to sound like the start of a bad Powerpoint presentation, but Cambridge Dictionaries Online defines slag as “a woman who people disapprove of because she has had a lot of sexual partners.
Ok, nothing new here; a slag is a woman who’s sexual behaviour is not approved of. I don't agree with the sentiment and I definitely don't give a toss about anyone's sexual behaviour, but that's the definition that we all know and love (or see as an example of a seemingly-inescapable, suffocating patriarchy, or whatever).
So why are women called slags when they voice an opinion that someone (The Slag Caller, as we shall affectionately title them) doesn't agree with? Or they tread on The Slag Caller's toe in a club? Or they try to get the faces of inspirational women printed onto our currency?
Personally, I think it's because to be seen as too sexually available (although, be careful that you're not too sexually UNavailable ladies, because that's bad too, apparently) is still thought to be one of the worst things a woman can be. You're waste material. Being too sexually available is associated with all sorts of things; bad parenting, lack of education, poor hygiene, even gluttony.
I might sound like I'm quoting Christina Aguilera (and Lil' Kim), but there really is no male equivalent. You can call a guy a dick, but you can call a woman a dick. Any time a man is referred to as a slag, it's always prefixed with the word man; I.e man-slag, man-slut, man-whore etc. This is because those words are all inherently female, and that's the problem.

So let me be clear, I'm not angry because the driver called me a slag without knowing whether I have in fact had a lot of sexual partners or not. Maybe I have had a lot, what's a lot? I have definitely done some things that someone, somewhere would deem “a bit slaggy”. I think it's pretty shitty to be called a slag whether you've slept with 2 or 200 people.
I'm angry because 'slag' seems to be the go-to insult when you want to make a woman feel small. There are much worse things that I could be called, things that would make me cry and question who I am as a person, but nothing makes me feel as angry, frustrated, invisible, silent and unfortunately sweaty as being called a slag.

I'm now taking my 'Time's I've Been Called A Slag' list to Twitter. Every time I'm called a slag, or a slut, or I remember an incident with a misty-eyed fondness, I'm going to post it using the hashtag #ReasonsIHaveBeenCalledASlag
Please, join me.
And then hopefully everyone will realise how fucking stupid it is.

PS
Guys, don't call girls slags.
Girls, don't call girls slags.